This was my response to a question on switching roles during a scene on MyDungeonSpace.

Your question infers there might be an imbalance in the power dynamics within the person switching. That is something to consider.  In my opinion, staying in one role in a play session allows for coping with only one set of feelings. Having been in the unique position of being on both sides of the paddle, I found it less confusing to give up one side in order to enjoy the other and prefer doing that as a matter-of-course.

Having observed switches topping and bottoming in a short time-frame, say within the same scene, I concluded it was not easy for them to switch roles.  Partly because once they switched from top to bottom, they were perceived as bottoms beyond play and beyond the scene.   Secondly, there was an internal struggle on whether to give in to that desire or hold back.  More often than not, the dominant type switches remained in control of themselves while submitting. i.e. not fully submitting.

This my friends, is what I call the Switches’ Dilemma.

Acid Test for Dominants

Over at MyDungeonSpace, we see posts and blogs from newbie subs who want to know how to protect themselves when seeking out a Dominant. Often times, they are exposed to D/s online.

Acid Tests for Dominants. Copyright DrSpankenstein. All rights reserved.

Reprinted as a public service from “Submission and Coffee” BDSM podcast, with permission.

Podcast of Dollie reading The Acid test.

There are plenty of points to discuss in this article.

Basically, “it’s a good  common sense piece of writing,” as one of our frequent posters said before she disagreed with one of the caveats.

Hot and Sweet Confession

Announcing my bitch, pink twitch’s latest work.  It’s hot and sweet and semi-confessional from the mind of a man trying to come to terms with submission, his own need for submission.  He returns to his earliest memories of being a teenage boy caught masturbating while a make shift spreader bar is attached to his ankles.

From conception, it sparkles with creativity and is compelling in it’s execution; the piece is amazing. It speaks volumes on so many levels.  It’s like a good movie.  Each time I discover more, want to know more, and ponder on the revelations.

The 11 Funniest Unintentionally-Sexual Books Of All Time PICTURES.

I don’t know about you, but I remember running across some of these titles in the school library.  *shock*

For more examples, go directly to the article on Huffington Post.

Alright already . . . So You’re gay.  You wanna medal?

So, my brother is gay, right?  Just about everyone has a gay relative, friend, neighbor, and so on, and on, and on.  I’m an avowed pansexual.  No one has to tell me how difficult life is for gay people, trans, bisexuals, and members of alternative lifestyles, especially in terms of acceptance.

He came out to my family when he was in high school in a very “in your face, accept it, I like boys, bears, and. . . “‘   It continued for about 15 years.  Yes 15!   So alright already.  So one gives a shit.

The only thing that bugs me and my other brother(s) is that he continues to bang the drum when we are together at family functions, most of it is directed at our kids.  It’s not like they live in a bubble.  They ALL know he’s gay . . .  AND they don’t give a shit.

We’ve talked to him about why behaves that way.  So what’s the problem?  Does EVERYONE need to kiss the ring?  Why is your sexual preference our business?  What’s up with that?

Yanno what?  Dead phone.

FYI, you don’t KNOW all the Gay Hanky Codes.  Maybe you should bone up.

Shoe Slut Fun – Miss Strict Says . . ..

Imagine a tea party with 4 beautiful ladies on a sunny afternoon enjoying each others company and sharing tawdry tidbits. There’s a knock on the door and it’s the shoe slut.

Audio commentary

Plugging V  – Ever know a woman who is amazingly talented, earthy, intelligent, and deep as the sea?  That’s Verijaa.  She’s a Domme, a sadist, and a mean toy maker.

I want you to check out her toys.  She makes them herself, floggers, whips, vampire gloves, drumming bundles and more.   While you are there, check out her dungeon.

Over a year ago, I purchased a custom-made cat-o-nines from Verijaa.  She made them with butter soft purple leather.  The falls are braided and the knotted ends are like split tongues.

The workmanship is superb and I’ve gotten lots of compliments on it.  This particular flogger throws medium heavy and is slightly thuddy.  If it’s swung so that the tips just brush the skin, it gets more of a reaction.  Know what I mean?

She also made a handsome black and red quirt that she donated to the MDS football pool.

So if you are looking for something special and custom-made, contact Verijaa@verijaa.com

This is a call for topics.

There are a lot of intelligent, savvy experienced folk in the lifestyle that are within the reach of my fingers.  Collectively, their knowledge ranges from newbie to being in the kink community for decades.

On occasion, I will be inviting some of them to contribute to this blog as a public service.  If there are any requests for special topics please let me know by posting below.

There is a new site I’m proud to present a new site designed to explore the many faces of kinky people, their kinks, and kink in general, ergo the name. , Kink-Ology.